I want to share something that happend this evening. While the story itself is heartbreaking, the thing I learned most is that no matter how well adjusted the boys seem, they are still hiding the scars from the events in their previous life.
Tonight, we got home about 6 pm. Everyone knows that at the time, there is an important question that has to be asked. "Whats for dinner?" Unfortunately for us, this was one of those days where you go to the cupboard, and there is nothing there. I mean nothing. I was able to find some old noodles, from a mac and cheese box, and some beef round steak. I did not know what to do with the beef, so I cooked it in a pan and added some seasoning...it was bad!
To add to the urgency, Tegan was telling us that he was "hungry, hungry, really hungry please" The boys had had a small lunch and no snack, so I know they were hungry. The hunger issue is one we are sensitive with, just because so much of their life in Ethiopia was spent in hunger.
Well, since the dinner I prepared was not happening, we told Tegan that we did not have any food in the house, and he could have an apple. Our idea was to hold them off, while we figured out something else. As we told him that, this look of sadness and resignation came over him, as he heard us say, "no food...apple....sorry...." We quickly realized he thought we were telling him that he would not eat tonight....and he accepted that. No complaining, just defeat...
As soon as we realized that, we scooped them up, ran out the door and we to a restaurant. He told us in the car, that he was scared that he was not going to eat tonight.
That broke our hearts, as our first promise to him was that he would never be hungry again. He knows the difference between hunger between meals, and real hunger; and thought that we had broken our promise. That in America too, he would be hungry. After dinner we went grocery shopping as well, so its all okay now. But this was on of the first times, where I saw the pain from his old life, impact a part of his new life.
I now that will happen ever so often, but as a parent its so hard to see my children in pain. I am so thankful that they are a part of or family, and that he has us to work through that pain with him!
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Sunday, February 21, 2010
I am one for cool, new technology. I cant always afford it, need it, or would actually use it; but I want it. For example, we were staying with some people, and the man there is a self-described"apple geek" He had Apple TV hooked up, and was able to access all of his itunes information.
Honestly, its something that is not really needed, but I turned to Renee and told her I wanted it. She rolled her eyes, and said, " I know, but your're not getting it" I love technology, and am always looking for new and exciting things.
So today, I discovered that blogger will let me add pages, and do things to make this look more like a website, I decided I had to do it. So, I bought a custom domain name, and added some new pages of information. Now, that means I need to do a better job on this blog, keeping you all updated. So I will do my best. No promises, but I will try!
Posted by Ransom Family 4 at 5:58 AM
Monday, February 15, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
This is one of our favorite pictures of Tegan, taken from our hotel window in Addis Ababa. He saw us looking out the window, and ran to get his family book, and showed us that he knew who we were. This was our first glimpse of Tegan.
What a difference a year makes! Today we celebrate the day of your birth. The day you came into this world, and changed it forever. Four years ago, your Mom and I had no idea that we would be a part of the world that you changed, but we are so grateful you are. Your Mom and I never imagined that we could love a person as much as we love you, you have changed our lives in an amazing way.
What a difference a year makes! 365 days ago..
You lived in another culture, in another time
You spoke a different language, and had seen and experienced more than someone your age should
You were told to sleep, so you would not feel your hunger
You had no idea that your life was about to drastically change forever
365 days ago...
We turned in the final paperwork to adopt you, and prayed that God would give us the right kids...
We spent our days dreaming of you, and who you were
We tried to imagine what our life would be like, and could not
You had no idea that one year later, you would have a new family, and a new life. Our precious Tegan, God knew exactly who we needed, and we needed you. You bring such a light, and grace, a simplistic faith to all you do. People say that you are lucky for coming here, but they are wrong. We are the lucky ones. Today as your turn four, and begin your self-described "big boy life", please know that we love very much. That there are people on the other side of the world who love too. Who want to see you become the person we know you can become.
At a young age, you already hold onto Jesus in an amazing way, and it is our prayer that you hold on to that. That God makes us worthy of parenting you, and giving you what you need. We cant wait to see what the future holds for you, and we know this world that you changed better watch out…they have no idea whats coming!
Your Mommy and Daddy
Posted by Ransom Family 4 at 10:46 PM
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Three Years Ago, after meeting, dating and becoming engaged in Xian, we were in Thailand about to embark on the journey that we had dreamed about for years.
Do you remember that moment that you heard the opening strain of Nat King Coles "LOVE" , and you walked down the tiny aisle in Thailand? The moment we became husband and wife, and I slipped that ring made with your parents stones on your finger? Can you believe it was only three years ago? Think for a moment how much has happened since then..
We have lived in two countries
We have visited 13 more
We have traveled to 13 States here in the US
We have learned Chinese
We have still never had a fight
We have never spent a night apart
We have become parents to the most amazing 2 and 4 year old boys in the world
We have seen a dream for our life birthed, and begin to take shape
We have had a lot of ups and downs, but made it through stronger for it
We have truly lived out our life motto, 上帝之殿和想和爱
Today, exactly three years ago, the most amazing thing happened. I married my best friend, I married you. I got more than I ever imagined on that warm day in Chiang Mai; and I do not regret it for a second. I truly love you more today than I did then; something I did not imagine was possible. Thank you for loving me, and accepting me just as I am. Its because of your unwavering belief and support of me, that I am the person I am today. Thank you for everything that you are to me; I cant imagine how I made it 28 years without you, and am so glad I will never have to find out. I love you more than you can possibly imagine, my amazing STR!
Posted by Ransom Family 4 at 3:10 PM